Hinge adds relationship type feature to dating app

A dating app has taken a big step forward with the inclusion of a new feature to track an emerging relationship style that has recently made headlines thanks to Abbie Chatfield.

Hinge has included a “relationship type” addition here, people can reveal if they are looking for or are in a non-monogamous relationship, looking for monogamy, or not sure what they are comfortable with.

The new feature contains details such as your age or profession.

At this point, users can’t use this feature to filter by relationship type like they can with things like sexuality or age.

While 86% of people say they want monogamous relationships, there is an emerging trend for this dating style – also known as ENM or polyamory – among the LGBTQIA+ community and Gen Z.

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Essentially, relationship style takes many forms but, at its core, it is the idea that both partners in a relationship experience romantic or sexual attraction to more than one person and act accordingly.

Logan Ury, director of relationship science at Hinge, told news.com.au that there are many misconceptions about non-monogamy such as it means cheating or that people who practice have commitment issues. .

She added that just because you’re in this style of relationship doesn’t mean you can’t cheat — with every relationship there are rules and limits.

Ms Ury added that there should also be clear boundaries and research before embarking on non-monogamy.

“Find out why you care about non-monogamy. The foundation of successful and healthy non-monogamous relationships is honesty,” she told news.com.au.

“You need to be able to communicate with your partner early on about what you are comfortable with, what your boundaries are, how you will handle any potential breaches of trust, etc. Begin by discussing why you are both in this topic.

“Perhaps you both want to explore emotional or physical intimacy with more people. Perhaps you are interested in exploring relationships with people of different genders.

“If your answers sound more like ‘all our friends are doing this’ or ‘this will solve our problems’, don’t miss it.

“Non-monogamy is not an effective way to hide from your relationship problems. In fact, it will often magnify them.

She said that in the beginning it is important to educate yourself by reading books such as

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Maintaining Open Relationships to get a clear understanding, as well as talk to people you know who practice.

Ms. Ury added that it was important to define what non-monogamy is for you.

“Unlike traditional monogamous relationships, non-monogamy has a lot more room for interpretation. If you asked eight couples what their non-monogamous relationships were like, you might get eight different answers because there is no definition strict,” she said.

“For some couples, they’re okay with the occasional kiss when someone’s at an out-of-town conference, but not much more. Other couples have rules against sleeping with someone in their extended group of friends.

“A friend of mine can sleep with other people, but not more than once. These rules must be defined upstream.

She said conversations about protection, contraception and sharing knowledge about dating your partner should also be shared.

But, at the end of the day, making time for your primary and having regular check-ins is key to tackling a new adventure together.

With celebrities such as Abbie Chatfield being open and honest about her relationship style with her former boyfriend, it led to many having a pop culture reference point for what non-monogamy looked like.

This, Ms Ury said, was extremely important to make others feel comfortable.

“When celebrities in non-monogamous relationships share their stories, it sparks important conversations about the ins and outs of those structures,” Logan said.

“It inspires other people to explore new possibilities and find the type of relationship that’s right for them.”

While other apps like OKCupid and Feeld have features like this, even including a section where you can link profiles with your partner, Hinge is the first mainstream app to formally recognize different relationship styles.

Ms Ury said a rise in non-monogamy queries led to enforcement including relationship types.

“At Hinge, we like to think holistically about how to serve the unique experiences and identities of daters. Ultimately, we want to empower our users to find intentional and meaningful relationships,” she said.

“When you associate with someone and find out that one person is looking for monogamy and the other isn’t, it can be quite disheartening.

“Our new feature will allow everyone to see at a glance whether the other person has the same relationship goals.”

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